Facebook has turned into an unwanted hidden enemy for couple relationships. Being unfaithful or, at least, thinking about it is as easy as clicking.

19 May 2017  - 

Since the emergence of social media on our private lives, the word infidelity has taken a new meaning. We don’t pay as much attention to whether our partner changes their habits or schedules or even behavior. Now we focus on their activity in the digital world and the scope of their likes.

Facebook has turned into an unwanted hidden enemy for couple relationships. Being unfaithful or, at least, thinking about it is as easy as clicking. We may be witness to photographs, commentaries or any other information to, mistakenly, reach hasty conclusions or discover something we didn’t want to know. Ignorance is bliss!

An obsession with “ likes”

What we know today, and we don’t need to talk to many people to know it, is that Facebook can lead us to a nervous breakdown. How many times have you checked today if that special person clicks “Like”? What would happen if today doesn’t happen but it does on someone else’s photo or commentary?

Many times you get the wrong conclusions. You start asking yourself if the relationship is in a crisis or if you are no longer and object of desire. It may sound crazy but, the truth is, behavior on Facebook provokes dramas, anxiety and, what’s worst, if occurring daily, the next thing coming will be a total nervous crisis.

An adult in real life and a teenager on Facebook

The reason why balanced and adult people turn into teenagers inclined to be private detectives is unknown but we all know there is something strange. Maybe the variety of information available (true or not) we can look up without leaving traces.

Nobody can find out you have sneaking on a profile unless you add a commentary or click “Like”. With all that information available you can make up a thousand stories in your head. For example: why is she invited to the party and not me? Why did she join that group? Why didn’t she add that photo in which we look so in love?

What do psychologists say

Increasing numbers of psychologists admit spending hours and hours talking about their patients’ Facebook and ranting about the meaning of the “likes”. Nowadays, many users underestimate the effect of Facebook on their emotional relationships but, the truth is, it’s increasing and negatively.

Before, if you missed a party, eyes that don’t see heart that doesn’t feel but now, the community will upload dozens of photos, commenting them up and down and exaggerating the event as much as possible. Maybe they didn’t have such a good time but, for the one who wasn’t at the party, it’ll be a stab hadn’t been there.

On the other hand, Facebook has positioned itself as one of the best ways to be in contact with others. If we are very bored we can sneak for a while on the life of people we consider more interesting than us. So far so good but, if someone uploads a photo of us and we get tagged, we may have problems with our partner. Lies always had short legs and now more than ever.

Saying face to face: you look beautiful! Is not the same as commenting it on Facebook. Probably the boyfriend or girlfriend of that person will take it badly. The expression will resonate in their head and poor you if you respond to that comment on those lines.

It’s only Facebook!

The excuse, once we get into a jealousy fight, is not to consign it to a, it’s only Facebook!. A 2009 study underlined it causes damage in couple relationships as far as jealousy goes. There is even a page called “I wonder how many relationship Facebook ruins this year”, which already has hundred thousand “likes”.

The silliness on Facebook may be a small crack that ends up finishing a solid marriage. Those ten years later reencounters on the web may start a shower of “likes” and lead onto a golden shower at least. And after this, let’s see how we continue with our marriage with body and soul cleanliness.

On the book Facebook and your marriage, written by Jason and Kelli Krafsky, it’s advised not to overuse the “like” or the possibility to make comments because it leads to an over exposure of intimate life and, when it’s overexposed, control is lost.

It applies as much to a partner as to friends, maybe that person you comment about or tag on a photo doesn’t agree at all with the publicizing of their life. Ask first, to the first and the later, if they are not comfortable with that possibility.

Flirting on Facebook

Flirting, flirting on Facebook is what makes it most attractive. It’s so easy to compliment without any commitment that millions of people fall into that loving it.

One thing is to see your partner complimented at a bar and another thing is to see your partner respond on Facebook, once and again, to those compliments, be it exposing photos, commentaries, trumpeting “likes” or exchanging emails or being hours on their chat.

19 May 2017  - 

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